Thanks all, for your continued patience with me as I try to find a balance between work, home, hiking, photography and blogging. I'm starting to find my rhythm now, and hopefully won't need too many more byes throughout the course. I have also enlisted the aid of several volunteer guest bloggers. I can't think of a more appropriate first guest than Bill Shecket, who has a long-time affiliation with CHS. In this article, Bill discusses a leader's perspective on hiking with "persons of advanced wisdom". Enjoy, and please post your comments!
--Steve
Thoughts about Aging Trip Participants
By Bill Shecket
So how can an aging outdoorsman, a hiker and backpacker with 600-plus nights out (he keeps a log), juxtapose his sense of self with his inevitable aging? Can we as trip leaders help?
What does the older participant say as he struggles to keep up with the rest of the group while they stride seemingly effortlessly up a stretch of hill? He needs to stop and catch his breath every few minutes. The group waits for him at the saddle above, talking, telling stories, pacing, and regularly sneaking short stares down slope. And soon they hear the panting and see the sweating and when he does arrive, the water gets gulped from the Nalgene bottle! It’s truly painful to watch, but is he suffering? Can we as trip leaders help?
Stanford psychologist Leon Festinger spent his career studying how we make sense of conflicting attitudes and behaviors. We are so uncomfortable, he said, with our states of dissonance that we will change our beliefs (some powerful and long “held dear”) to reframe the person we think we are. Most of us will craft a story; so it’s no surprise our aging participant talks about the bad weather: “It was wet and windy so I had to be adjusting my gear.” Another comment might be, “I feel a little off this morning; maybe I’m getting a cold.” Or he might quip “People are in such a hurry now. They push for the summit and don’t stop to look at the view or even take a picture.” But the saddest statements of all aren’t rationalizations of the moment, the hike, or the group’s behavior. They are self-revisions, incomplete and probably untrue: “I never was any good going uphill.” and “I’ve always been uncomfortable on loose rock and scree.” and “Most of my trips have been on good trails and old logging roads.” What about your Alaska backpacking adventures? How sad!
We as leaders need to understand that our aging trip participant has trouble accepting his changes. He is now 71 years old and so he must go slower! He can be a great hiker/climber but he needs to carefully negotiate rough trails and he must give himself more time. He has to come to grips with who he is now, not who he wishes he still was!
This senior participant could be a delightful companion for us on properly selected trips. He has lots of wisdom and much to “show and tell.” This man’s stories would be a joy to share and he would be an outstanding partner for those in his company, an esteemed member of the group and not a problem person, a liability, or a drain on everyone – if he could catch his breath long enough to talk!
Our aging trip member has climbed innumerable peaks, braved ice-melt swollen streams, seen wolves and grizzlies, and hauled 60-pound packs across the tundra on week-long adventures. Why can’t accepting and changing himself be as significant a challenge?
Can facing these personal summits be the adventure now? How can we as trip leaders help him move away from denial and find self-acceptance, move from feelings of dissonance to feelings of consonance? How can we help him find a comfortable place in the outings community?